Failure may disappoint and hurt a child with ADHD, but it shouldn’t devastate him. His self-esteem takes a hit because he interprets each negative experience as further proof that he is a “loser.” The following words can be for any child but those with ADHD are far less resilient and struggle to contain their emotions.
- Very successful people fail sometimes — some of them fail a lot. Thomas Edison made 3,000 attempts before creating a light bulb that worked! Do we call Edison a failure? Of course, not. We call him a brilliant inventor. Help them to think of someone they know who preserves in spite pf difficulties
- Every failure can teach us something important. Help them to look for a positive, even a small one e.g. “what part did I do well?” or “what did I notice that I can use next-time?”– it is a wonderful mindset to take through life.
- Even though you fail at something, you are not a failure. You’re still a good person. Let’s think about all the good things you do and have done.
- We can succeed only if we’re willing to take risks and work hard. If you want to win the race, you have to enter the race and train to be a good runner. Winners don’t have a guarantee that they will win every race, but the chance that they will makes it worth it. Help them to think of a person they admire who has gotten up after losing, again and again.